You Aren’t Telling Me Anything I Don’t Already Know
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By this point, you’ve probably realized that I’m rambling on about myself and lessons I learned or experiences I’ve had. Some of you may be rolling your eyes, or some may just be checking in on how I’m doing in life. But the reason I keep writing and sharing is because of those of you who’ve found it helpful. Who feel inspired and empowered to get out of your own head sometimes and take a chance. I know that I’m not telling you anything you may not know already. Or that you haven’t heard before. I mean, most of it is common sense: think positively, try new things, get out of your comfort zone, etc. Sure, these are things you know to be true and that you know will help you. Are you actually doing it though? Are you staying positive and taking chances? Are you actually going after what you want from this life? If you’re like me, you learned that you need to hear things a million times before you even start putting words into actions.
I also learned that my ambition and discipline only went so far.
It stopped at the end of an article, the last page of a book, the final sentence of a speech. Because when I’m sitting there alone with my notes and my own thoughts, everything I learned has now become an afterthought to everything else I need to do. Even worse, if I didn’t see results right away (because who doesn’t give themselves ridiculous expectations), I quit. I deemed it too hard or decided that it didn’t work. Or I was overwhelmed with all the information that was available. Or the fact that every other Google search contradicted the previous one. So then what changed for me?
A little word called accountability.
Time to introduce you to Frankie and my life-changing experience. I knew my nutrition could use a little assistance. I wasn’t a newbie by any means because I knew how to track and watch what I eat or how much I ate. But I didn’t know how food really worked. I didn’t know that there was no such thing as “bad carb, good carb”. I didn’t know that I could change my metabolism. I didn’t know that I needed to eat more to lose weight. I didn’t know how your hormones affected your body. I didn’t know how your body composition can literally change throughout the day. I didn’t know how alcohol affected me days later even if it didn’t visibly look like it the next day. I didn’t know that the scale is such a liar, and it’s how you feel that makes the difference for you mentally.
One of the first things Frankie told me was to trust him and trust the process. Do you know how hard that was for me? Me, who needs control over everything. It was a struggle at first to let go of all that I believed I knew. To let someone else in to all my vulnerabilities and day-to-day activities. He gave me the guidance I needed, he held me accountable, but I put in the actual work.
And I saw the results.
I started to see the definition that CrossFit alone wasn’t giving me. Adding nutrition was the key. The gyms were closed thanks to the pandemic, so I focused on my nutrition and just moving my body every day. Whether it was taking walks or just doing bodyweight movements, I stayed consistent. Quarantine year was the best I’ve ever looked and felt. I worked with Frankie for a little over a year, and I still text him to this day to thank him and tell him that not a day goes by that I don’t use something he taught me. I have a few friends, and even Ryan, that will tell you the same.
It took time though.
It was not instant gratification by any means. Getting to this point was difficult and definitely not linear. In the past, I would have given up if I saw that it looked like I was bloated, I gained weight, the scale went up, or a magic little pill didn’t give me results like advertised. I would stop tracking. I would have gotten disappointed. I would have made excuses for why I quit, and blamed everything and everyone except myself. But not this time. When I fell off, I got back on. When I felt defeated, I gave myself grace instead of ridicule. When I felt I had taken a step back, I focused on my progress. I learned that setbacks weren’t failures. That it was okay to enjoy my vacations and take intentional time off. To not restrict myself and be more mindful of my habits.
Most importantly, working with Frankie gave me freedom.
Freedom from food, from the scale, from societal expectations, and conforming to what social media leads women to believe is normal. So yes, I knew some things about nutrition. I even knew some of the things Frankie was telling me. But there is always something more to learn. Either from someone or from the process, there is always something more to gain. Even if you think you’ve heard it all, you know it all, you can always learn something new. And when you learn more about something, it starts to become a habit and you start to see results.
It’s not about the fact that you might know something, it’s about accountability.
I will repeat myself, I will reiterate things to you, I will overstate and overshare. That’s what this blog is for. To continue to inspire and empower those of you who are looking to shatter the things that are holding you back from going after the things you want in life. To make sure you point the finger at the right person when you want to let failure win. To remind you that accountability is what will make the difference.
And to trust the process and focus on the progress.
Start setting goals today and hold yourself accountable.
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Until next week,
